Almost every mommy feels it constantly. It is what my girlfriends and I coined as "Mommy Shame". You know, that time when you go ahead and send your little angel to the sitter (even though you don't have to go to work) just so you can take a few minutes to go and get your eyebrows waxed or just to have a few minutes to sit in complete silence. It seems that the entire time you have carved out for yourself to be relaxing and having some "me" time, is spent feeling horrible that you have dropped your child off with someone else when you actually have free time you could be spending with her. I find myself even making excuses and apologies to the sitter. Poor, sweet Adrienne, the Godsend that watches Haddie. I find myself engulfed in a huge story about how I know that I have the day off, but I have this errand and this errand to run. Being a mommy herself, she knows exactly what I am feeling, "the Mommy Shame". She hugs me and tells me, take time for you. You have to. Why is it that we put this guilt on ourselves? Is it society that does this to us, or is it out own little voice inside our own little head telling us "How on Earth could you actually take time for yourself?". I don't know where it comes from, but I do know it is really lame. I love my child more than anything in the world, just as most mommies do. It is time that we as mothers remember though that we must take time for ourselves. It is okay for the sitter to watch your little angel while you hit up a yoga class, get a much needed pedicure, get your roots done, or just lay in bed in complete silence for a nap. Without being rested and happy, we cannot be the best that we can be for our children. For baby to be happy and healthy, mommy has to be happy and healthy!
So, next time you see a mommy that looks like she is at the end of her rope, whisper in her ear, "let go of the mommy shame girl". Take time to do you. It will make you and baby (not to mention daddy) more happy and healthy.